Why We Shouldn’t Try to Be Popular

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Being popular sounds inviting, does it not? Isn’t it true that we all like to be liked? Whether we’re scrolling through Instagram, reading a blog, or talking to someone in person, do thoughts of jealousy silently creep in when we see their greater popularity? Do we not, even subconsciously, compare our own lives to what we are presented through social media, the internet, and conversations? That’s the key word here: presented.

For this post, I’m going to use Instagram as the main example, but it can be applied to any social media platform, the internet, or an in-person experience.

The countless Instagram accounts brimming with perfectly planned photos and striking filters may make it seem to any onlooker that those accounts represent the real lives of the Instagrammers. However, I can assure you, they do not. The Instagrammers don’t see the world through the Valencia filter or have lives compiled of only the most seemingly perfect photos they post. Life doesn’t work that way, not for anybody. Many people post content for the sole reason of becoming popular with their audiences. Their content may not even please themselves, and only be posted for sheer popularity/followers/likes.

Now that we’ve established that what some people choose to present to their audience does not necessarily reflect their true lives, let’s each ask ourselves a question. Do I do that?

When we post something either on social media or the internet, or even how we act and speak, are we doing it for popularity, to impress someone, and to seem a little different than we really are? Are we trying to get more likes or friends by presenting things that do not reflect our true selves? What if, by doing that, we are creating a fictional social front and not revealing what we truly enjoy, think, or find interesting?

Fortunately, there is an easy fix for this epidemic of trying to become popular: don’t try. Just completely drop everything that is dishonestly encouraging popularity and instead be yourself. Present content that truly makes you happy and interests you. Stop “trying” to be popular, because if you aren’t being yourself, then they don’t like you, they like the artificial life you have presented.

Also, this is a reminder that you do not have to agree with other people (on social media, the internet, or in real life) just to become popular in their eyes. Do not feel as though you must pretend to like or agree with something that a friend likes or agrees with to win their friendship or approval. Lying and being dishonest about what you believe or like to gain popularity is definitely not a good thing to practice. Being popular in the eyes of friends, peers, and strangers matters not a pittance if you aren’t popular in God’s eyes.

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When people look at what we present to the world, we should want them to see us, not a fake life that we’ve created for an audience. More importantly, when people look at us, they should see Jesus. We should always remember that what we present should be a reflection of our Lord above; things that are true, things that are pure, and things that are lovely. Be yourself, the daughter/son of The King and be sure to represent Him in everything we do.

As my final question: what are you presenting to the world: content created to gain popularity, or the real you, the child of The King?

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Do you find yourself presenting content for popularity that isn’t the real you?

Have you ever felt like you had to agree with someone to gain popularity in their eyes?

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Megan Joy

(P.S. There is nothing wrong with posting pretty or pre-planned pictures on social media, but make sure that it represents the true you, things that you like, enjoy, and wish to share with others, like the love of our Heavenly Father!)

12 Ways Get Your Book Started

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Writing a book means being inspired by something and then transferring that inspiration into words, sentences, and chapters. There is something that sparks our imagination and urges us to begin writing in fury, typing down the story that we so much want to tell. However, what happens when you’ve no idea how to begin your story and have no inspiration to get started?

Now, I’ve never had trouble starting a book, but instead my dilemma is with finishing them. I write out the plot, get more than half way complete, and suddenly a new story pops into my head. It seems as though there will never be enough time to write down all the stories I want to tell! Nevertheless, I do get stuck in my writing sometimes which calls for inspiration. So here is a list of twelve ways to find inspiration when you want to begin writing a book (or finish one!).

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Go on a spontaneous walk or plan out a long adventurous trek. Either one is sure to spark your inspiration. Let your feet take you to an unknown destination and enjoy your time venturing.

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Sometimes, reading a classic work of fiction can help pull us into the world of writing. It inspires us to mold our own stories and put together a plot of our own. Little Women, Anne of Green Gables, and The Secret Garden are some great classics to read.

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Yes, I’m sure we can all go back into our distant memories to recollect a time when to find someone’s phone number, you had to look it up in a book that was mailed to you once a year, called a telephone book. If you still have one laying around today, you may not be able to use it as it was originally intended, however it is very possible to extract some inspiring ideas from it. Open it to a random page and point to any last name. Turn to another page to find a first name to go with it. Do this over and over, and soon you’ll have a whole book’s worth of characters to write about!

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Playing a musical instrument can be so inspiring; whether it be a piano, violin, guitar, flute, ukulele, or yes, even a harmonic or recorder. Go outside and play; see if the birds sing along. Listen to nature and hear what it says! You’re bound to have something to write about when you come back inside.

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Create a story-inspiration board and pin any photo you come across that looks interesting. The pictures that urge us to know the stories behind them are the ones that give us inspiration for writing, so be on the look out for those. Also, you can always make those boards private if you don’t want to share them with your followers.

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Get onto Spotify and play your favorite instrumental track. Listen to your favorite movie scores or find something new! I’ve found it helpful to create a separate playlist for each of your stories; it definitely helps to get you into the world you’re writing about.

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It doesn’t matter if you aren’t an artist. The point isn’t to create a masterpiece, but to create something that will get your mind flowing and open to new ideas. Draw a mountain, a dog, a person; it really doesn’t matter!

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Pack snacks, pens, and a notebook, and take a trip into the nearest bustling city. Roam the streets, people watch, or find a little café to write in, and just take in everything that you see, and use it to propel you into your writing.

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I’m not kidding about this one. Not only are you doing something profitable but cleaning out your closet or work space can also provide you with tons of inspiration. You could come across old letters or memorabilia hidden away that spark ideas for writing. If not, the cleaning will bore you so much that you begin daydreaming about anything other than cleaning, giving you ideas for a book!

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Visit any thrift shop and look around. I’m sure you’ll find something inspiring. Go with a list of things to find, like a book dated before 1900, a vintage jewelry box, or old ice skates. Anything you find that interests you can be the starting point for a book.

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For me, some of the most inspiring moments happen when watching a really good movie. If you want to write a story set in the 1820s, watch Sense and Sensibility; not so you can copy it, but to draw ideas from it; how they spoke, dressed, and acted. There’s something so motivating in seeing a movie set in the era in which you intend to write!

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Talk with other writers and aspiring authors in person or through blogs. Sometimes just reading about what others are writing, will get you thinking about forming a plot of your own! It’s always fun to know what others are doing in their writing. Below you can find a list of writing blogs to visit for more writing tips and stories!

Reveries // Ruffles and Grace // Once Upon an Ordinary // Charis Rae // Invisible World // Claire Rachel // Liv K. Fisher // The Writing Writers // Forever and Everly // Peeking Beneath

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Do you enjoy writing?

What are you working on right now?

Do you think any of these 12 ways would be helpful?

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Megan Joy

Seven Vintage Fashion Bloggers You Need to Follow

Seven Vintage Fashion Bloggers You Need to Follow

Hello, one and all! I’d love to share a collection of vintage fashion bloggers that are so very inspiring and deserve recognition.

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Many of them listed below are ones that I followed even before I began Simply Megan Joy, and were the main inspirations to have my own blog! So check them out and give them some love!

disclaimer: the photos shown below do not belong to me and I do not take credit for them. They are the properties of the awesome bloggers featured below! I hope you go follow them!

Minnie Muse

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Madison from Minnie Muse has an amazing blog about fashion, life, and all things beautiful! She recently got back from a trip to New York City and is sharing all her wonderful adventures on her site!

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Miss Hero Holliday

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Miss Hero Holliday has the most gorgeous collection of vintage dresses! Each week she shares her lovely outfits and I just adore every one!

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The Boyer Sisters

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The Boyer Sisters blog was the first vintage fashion blog I ever followed, and it was the main inspiration for me to start my own! Recently, they branched out with a second website and started following their own personal dreams. It’s always fun to scroll down and read their old posts full of so many inspirational outfits!

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Gracefully Vintage

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Kayla from Gracefully Vintage lives on the Central Coast of Australia and loves dressing from the 1920s to 1970s! She has so many cute posts up on her blog that you should go read!

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Brijee

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Brigid Everson, (formally one of the Boyer Sisters) has started her own blog where she shares her fashion and sewing adventures! I can’t wait for her next post as they’re always fun to read!

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Ruffles and Grace

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Victoria from Ruffles and Grace has a love for fashion, sewing and writing. She has her own seamstress business and even has a book published! She loves writing and sharing her many passions on her blog, so go check it out.

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A Clothes Horse

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Rebecca from A Clothes Horse is probably the most inspiring vintage fashion blogger I’ve ever found. The outfits she creates and the amazing photography to go with them make her blog such a splendid place to visit. Anyone who loves vintage fashion will love A Clothes Horse!

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Have you already checked out some of these amazing blogs?

What are some of the vintage fashion blogs you follow?

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Megan Joy

Top Polyvore Styles // Winter 2018

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If you’ve ever tried Polyvore, it’s quite possible that you’ve spent hours upon hours creating the most fun and fashionable outfits and charming accessories to match! If you have never used Polyvore, I am here to tell you how useful it is for any fellow fashionistas, whether vintage loving or not! With Polyvore, you can search thousands of photos of dresses, shirts, pants, shoes, coats, bags, jewelry, and accessories, mix and match them, and create countless outfits full of fun possibilities! It’s free and you can download all your oufits to your Pinterest page quite easily! I’ve found it to be very inspirational when you somehow discover yourself in a fashioning lull! At the bottom of this post, you can find my Polyvore link, which will take you to a list of all the items featured in this post and where to buy them!

Now enough jibber-jabber; let’s get to some outfits!

One // Waiting for the Train

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Two // Highland Roses

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Three // Quick Call

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Four // London Librarian

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Five // Valentine’s Brunch

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Six // Look Who’s Here

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Seven // Winter Walk

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Go check out Polyvore to create some amazing styles both vintage and modern!

Hint: If you make 25 different designs, your account gets upgraded to “Style Setter!”

You can find me on:

 Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/SimplyMeganJoy/

Polyvore: https://simplymeganjoyblog.polyvore.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/simplymeganjoy/

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Have you ever tried Polyvore before?

What clothing pieces have you been styling for your “winter fashion?”

Follow me on the accounts listed above so I can follow you back!

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Megan Joy/

First Year of Blogging + Giveaway!

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Guess what? This week Simply Megan Joy is celebrating its 1st year of existence anniversary! To celebrate, I’m hosting a little giveaway. Two separate winners will each receive a special Autumn-scented homemade candle!

The 1st name to be pulled out of the hat will get “Crisp Forest Leaves.”

The 2nd will be sent “Autumn Apple Pie.”

Inside each candle will be a specially designed hand-made piece of jewelry that can be retrieved once a few layers of the wax melts! All jewelry are original pieces created by an aspiring blacksmith who is in the process of starting his own business in that field. He also happens to be my brother!

To get one entry put in the hat you must:

  1. Be a follower/subscriber of Simply Megan Joy

  2. Comment on this post (just to let me know to enter your name into the hat)

(To get one extra entry, you can subscribe to my brand-new Instagram account here! Just notify me that you did this in your comment below)

That’s it! The deadline to enter is Wednesday, October 18th, 2017. The winners will be announced the following Friday. Unfortunately, I can only ship prizes within the U.S.A, so this giveaway is not available for international readers! My apologies!

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Do you like autumn candles?

Which Fall candle scent is your favorite?

Thanks for reading and don’t forget to enter the giveaway!

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Megan Joy